De Droid (droid_1) wrote in proudtobeugly,
De Droid

What's the point?

I have noticed that a percentage of the people who join this community are seeming to miss the point of it. Judging from the amount of deleted journals, anyway.

One of the main points of this community is to disregard the idea that a person has to be good-looking or even good at other things in order to be liked.

In other words, if you are joining the community merely from a lack of self-esteem, that's the wrong idea. The idea is that one's self esteem, one's feeling of self-worth, or worthiness, should not be related to how you look or how well you do at something.

If only the perfect were worthy, then there would be no one found worthy on the whole planet. Y'know what I mean? No one is perfect. It is an impossibility. First, one person's idea of perfect is liable to be totally different from another's. Second, there are many different ideas of what perfection is supposed to be.

Do not expect perfection from people. Don't even ask for perfection from people. People are fine just as they are. Everyone's different, and that's a good thing. Factories produce machines which are all exactly alike. We are not machines, and that is good.

There was once a song, "If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, make an ugly person your (spouse)." Because beauty is as beauty does, and many beautiful people are very spoiled, used to getting their way. True, this does not mean that the inverse is also true, but one must not judge by looks alone, "You can't judge a book by its cover," and "Beauty is only skin deep."

The whole point of the community, then, is that people should try to look beneath the surface of other people, and not "rate" someone just based on looks. Looks will only get you through the first meeting part of a relationship. It is what kind of person you are that counts for the long term.

We want to get away from superficiality in relationships, and into the deeper aspects of social behavior.
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